Recently news broke about a Louisiana justice of the peace, Keith Bardwell, refused to sign the marriage licence for interracial couples. His reasons? Bardwell believes interracial marriages won’t last long and the children of these marriages will suffer. Furthermore, it’s his belief that neither black or white society is accepting of such a relationship or their children.
Clearly I have something to say about this. I am the “white” daughter of two white parents and I’m married to the “mixed” son of a white mother and black father. In the past I have gone into more detail about our multiracial family. I have no statistics to quote on the validity of the claim that multiracial marriages are far more doomed than any other marriage but I do have my own statistic. After 8 years, my husband and I are still married. Did we beat the odds? I don’t know.
What I can say is, as the partner in an interracial marriage, every single problem we’ve ever had has never had anything to do with our racial or cultural differences. In fact, our marriage has taught us to be more tolerant and balanced individuals. And yet, there are people to this day that seem to think our marriage is wrong.
But what about the children? Don’t they suffer and lose their identity? To that I would respond, what identity are you referring to? Last time I checked even the description “white” is no more than a melting pot of various ethnicity’s. My father’s family is a mixture of German and Indian, my mother’s family is a mixture of German and DNA only knows what else. Is that the identity they are referring to, because if it is, I don’t even have one!
If Bardwell is correct in believing our family isn’t generally accepted by the black and white community, that’s okay, because it’s not our issue to deal with. It’s theirs. If someone is upset about me bringing a happy, healthy child into this world, regardless of the color of their skin, then it’s time they examine their own issues. We don’t have any. We love our children as do our families and the community we live in.
Here’s the real question…
Why is it so wrong to have an interracial relationship and children?
I’m open to all opinions and debate, so please, feel free to tell me your reasons, but please do include some validity to your argument.