Are those really YOUR kids?

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I personally conceived each one.

I carried each 8+ pound baby to full term.

I was torn inside out to expel these beautiful little beings into the world.

I breastfed 1 of 3 for 14 months.

Yes, yes, yes, these are my children. I promise.

And yes, I know, not one of them looks the slightest bit like me. Clearly I’ve got weak genetics which I don’t necessarily consider a bad thing. It means none of them inherited my lazy eye, my near-sighted vision, my hormonal instability or my crazy perfectionistic personality. I’m okay with that.

What I’m not okay with is complete strangers questioning my relationship with my children.

Just this week, I was visiting the hospital gift shop so my daughters could pick out flowers for their daddy (who just had his gallbladder removed) and as we’re checking out the woman behind the counter gushes on how beautiful their curly hair is, how sweet they are and then it happens.

“Are those your kids?”


“No I mean, are they YOURS?”

Yeah, I’m sure they’re mine. I know, they don’t look like me. At all. I know. They look like their daddy. (Please let this be the end)

“Well goodness, where did she get her blonde hair from?”

I had blonde hair as a toddler. It got darker.

“But what about all those curls? (pointing to my hair) They sure didn’t come from you.”

mumbling under my breath, no shit lady!

No, they didn’t, they just got lucky I suppose.

Another customer chimes in …. “don’t feel bad, my boys don’t look like me either.”


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  1. says

    People are so strange. What does it matter who your kids belong to or who they look like? My sister and I don’t look like either of our parents but we look like each other. Thankfully no one has ever questioned us…I don’t think we would be as polite as you were!

    • says

      How funny, my sister and I are the same way. Everyone says we look like each other (I don’t see it) but neither of us look entirely like either parent.

  2. says

    That is just nuts that someone would say that to you. How rude with the pretense of being interested/nice.

  3. says

    LOL! I have seven kids and not ONE of them looks like me! :) (They don’t have my skin tone – freckled and pale, my hiar color – red, my eye color – haze [okay, one of them has hazel eyes] or any other feature that looks like me.

    • says

      No kidding? I have a feeling if we had more kids they’d all look like my husband, 3 out of 3 is pretty bad odds for me. lol

  4. says

    Awww Cat. She’s about a ruddy pants isn’t she. I’m sorry. Some people just don’t know when to shut up. I remember when i was shopping with my daughter in Toys R Us and a lady actually told me my daughter looked adopted.

    NOW that is a fact but what gives her the right to come out and say that. She’s a baby and I loved her and that’s all that matters. She was a step away from getting my foot where the sun doesn’t shine

    Your daughters are beautiful I do think they look a little like you and they ARE Your babies and that’s all that matters.

    you mumbled no shit lady Lmao!! that was so funny

    • says

      The rudeness! Stuff like that irritates me, what if your daughter had been older and you never told her she was adopted? Comments like that can really hurt feelings and not just the parents’.

  5. says

    Awww! I don’t think mine looks like me either, but that she is a very good mix between both me and her father (definitely in attitude if nothing else, ha!). I hope that your husband gets to feeling back to normal soon. I had my gallbladder removed last year so I can relate. Here’s wishing him a speedy recovery! He will feel 100x better soon! :)

    • says

      Thanks Amanda. He looks 100x better than he did 3 days ago, lost a ton of weight and is still pretty weak but I’ll nurse him back to health. :)

  6. says

    Your kiddos are beautiful! It never ceases to amaze me at the lack of tact in some people. We have four kids and have often got comments about how many kids we have. I’ve had people say to me “don’t you know what causes that?”…Some people are just rude.

    • says

      Thank you Kari – I think so too. I think some people were born without a natural filter between their brain and mouth.

  7. says

    It never ceases to amaze me that some people don’t have a filter. My sister has gotten the same type of comments, although her one daughter looks exactly like her and her other looks nothing like her. A woman in the grocery store asked her once if they were from the same dad? Seriously people, is it really any of your business? I get the blonde thing too. I was really blonde as a kid and went dark. Both my boys started out really blonde and are now dark blonde, light brown.

  8. says

    I totally know the feeling!

    Bryson looks exactly like his daddy- blonde hair, blue eyes, same build, etc. Mirror image.

    Then, here comes Bella- a head full of dark hair. She looks exactly like me.

    Our mail lady commented, puzzled “Well look, this one has dark hair.” Uhhhm yeah? And?

    It felt like she was questioning the paternity of my child based on her hair color. LOL

    Some people never learned basic social skills, it seems.

  9. says

    My mom feels your pain. Out of all eight of us kids NO-ONE says that any of us look like her. No one. It’s ridiculous. People can be so rude! Personally, I think that your kids are beautiful. And your daughters hair? STUNNING. :)

  10. Gianna says

    They are all beautiful! All of my kids look like little clones of my husband :)